In this last week the reality has hit that YES my wife is pregnant, 11 weeks and 5 days to be exact and that in well now 28 weeks and 2 days (or something like that) there will be a little person and I, YES ME, will be a Dad...
I hope to use this blog to share this journey......
So to begin.....
The first thing is why has it taken 11 weeks for reality to hit?
I'm not sure when reality hits for most men, but I expect it varies from man to man. The moment of the positive test result might jolt some into the realisation that things are about to change, for some maybe it isn't until they hold their child in their arms and well I have met the odd Dad for who reality still hasn't hit even though their kid is well out of nappies.
So for me, What finally brought me to the realisation that "yes my wife is pregnant and yes I'm going to be a dad"
It was a combination of two things really - the 9 week scan with heart beat and moving hands (cute but yes it really is in there and it really is alive and moving), not being able to book a weekend away on a house boat for 4 weeks before the due date... (seemed like a sensible idea to start with but then think of how comfy the house boat bed would be at 8 months!!)
So far, since this realisation, it only seems to be getting more serious. I have had three conversations with friends about drugs - the prevalence, challenges for kids not getting involved and also received advice on how to give your child the skills to say no.
EICK ...Can I send it back? This is scary!
I was thinking that all I had to come to terms with at this stage is how to change nappies and the fact that sleep might be limited from early January 2011. But somehow life is all so complicated these days that you already have to start thinking about cots, prams, school - both primary and high school, daycare, the size of the car, redecorating the nursery- the list is endless. I'm wondering if I should be opening a superannuation fund just to be on the safe side.
I keep telling the cat that things are going to change but somehow I think she (just like me ) is blissfully unaware of how much the world is going to be turned up-side-down.
We both like long sleep in's and afternoon naps neither of which , from what I hear, are features of babies.
I hope to use this blog to share this journey......
So to begin.....
The first thing is why has it taken 11 weeks for reality to hit?
I'm not sure when reality hits for most men, but I expect it varies from man to man. The moment of the positive test result might jolt some into the realisation that things are about to change, for some maybe it isn't until they hold their child in their arms and well I have met the odd Dad for who reality still hasn't hit even though their kid is well out of nappies.
So for me, What finally brought me to the realisation that "yes my wife is pregnant and yes I'm going to be a dad"
It was a combination of two things really - the 9 week scan with heart beat and moving hands (cute but yes it really is in there and it really is alive and moving), not being able to book a weekend away on a house boat for 4 weeks before the due date... (seemed like a sensible idea to start with but then think of how comfy the house boat bed would be at 8 months!!)
So far, since this realisation, it only seems to be getting more serious. I have had three conversations with friends about drugs - the prevalence, challenges for kids not getting involved and also received advice on how to give your child the skills to say no.
EICK ...Can I send it back? This is scary!
I was thinking that all I had to come to terms with at this stage is how to change nappies and the fact that sleep might be limited from early January 2011. But somehow life is all so complicated these days that you already have to start thinking about cots, prams, school - both primary and high school, daycare, the size of the car, redecorating the nursery- the list is endless. I'm wondering if I should be opening a superannuation fund just to be on the safe side.
I keep telling the cat that things are going to change but somehow I think she (just like me ) is blissfully unaware of how much the world is going to be turned up-side-down.
We both like long sleep in's and afternoon naps neither of which , from what I hear, are features of babies.
Here is a photo of said cat (cupcake) enjoying nap.. she looks so peaceful.. get it while you can Cupcake!!!
Having a cat has actually been pretty cruisy. As long and she is feed, watered and gets a lap to nap on occasionally she is happy. I don't need to load her into the car for a quick trip to the shop or consider moving house so we live in the right area for the best cattery. What have I got myself into........and it's only the beginning......
